Low Key, Low Budget, But Still Alot Of Work Birthday Party

I swore that I was going to keep the boys birthday parties, low key and low budget. Today was Aidan's party that was Dinosaur theme. So I painted a triceratops and made horns to play "Pin the horn on the triceratops" I painted a dinosaur theme cardboard setting and cut the dino faces out so the kids could have their photos taken as dinosaurs, I made what felt like a million cupcakes with frosting , sprinkles and topped off with dinosaurs. I put together dino themed favor bags and made tags that thanked our guest for making the day special. I set up a dino mask and dino bead/necklace making station and I even decorated our bathroom in dinosaurs for the event. Not much money was spent, in the ball park of maybe $180 but many hours were put into preparing for this event. So the moral is low budget, low key does not me "Low WorkLoad" too.

The kids had a great time and it really got wild after the cupcakes were consumed. Give about 10 kids some sugar and minutes later you have pandimonium...just totally out of control. The best part of all is that Aidan thought his party was a success....even though it was a simple backyard party. (photos to come)

Aidan's Birthday

Aidan turned 4 today. It sure was a special day for him. We celebrated with his request for pepperoni pizza and cheescake. Grandma and the neighbors (Finacoms) came over to sing "happy birthday"...what a thrill it was for him. Even more thrilling was his birthday presents, he sure got spoiled and I'm sure there's much more to come because his official birthday party is Sunday. The loot included this remote control dinosaur that had Liam absolutely stunned, Daddy caught Liam's expression on photo that if you had to translate it, said "What the Hell is that!" Had us just busting up over it.


The night ended with a little struggle to get Aidan to go to bed. What child wants to go to bed when they have a loot of new toys to play with. With a little encouragement and support form mommy and daddy letting him know we understand it's hard for fun days to come to an end he finally caved in and went to bed (with grandma of course).

Grandma's visiting

Grandma arrived yesterday and I have to say the boys are just thrilled. They absolutely love all the attention grandma gives them...everyone of them! I have to say it surprises me. Of course we know Aidan is going to be thrilled, he's the first grandchild and has always been showered with grandma's love (and gifts)...in an obsessive kind of way, so of course he loves it and is thrilled when she visits. But, Liam and Miles are also thrilled, she reads to them and plays with them and showers them with attention (and some gifts) too, when Aidan's not in the spotlight, and they eat it up. Credit should be given, grandma is making an obvious attempt at being fair to all the kids (not a successful attempt, but an attempt). It is nice to see the boys have a such a sweet relationship with their grandma

Mommy's Shoes Are Cool

Liam has a new fascination with my shoes. He's always trying to put them on and walk around. I don't wear heels very often anymore, but recently I had a pair out and he really thought those were cool. That is, until he put those on and stumbled around in them, eventually falling on his head, poor guy. So he decided Mommy's flip flops were a much better fit.

Does Aidan have school spirit?

This week at Aidan's preschool is "Crazy Days Of Summer Week" sort of a school spirit week. I got a little excited for him, thinking, "oh he's going to love this" The week started off with crazy hair day. I borrowed some colored hairsprays from the neighbor and had planned just to put a dash of blue in his hair. Boy was I mistaken. He said no crazy hair day for him, his hair would be brown. That was the end of that conversation, he wanted nothing to do with it.

Today is pajama day, so I pulled out what I thought was his coolest pair of jammies that he might love wearing to shcool. A fun pair of dinosaurs, what boy wouldn't want to wear those to school right. Well, begrudgingly, Aidan is wearing them. But, I've had to listen to a long drawn out complaint about how upset he is about this. I'm hoping when he gets to school with his buddies in jammies too, he might be alot happier about this.

Hmmmm, who's spirit week is this really, Aidan's or mommy's?

Dr. Aidan

Aidan has a doctor kit he got quite awhile ago. So, we were really surprised when he pulled it out and started to play doctor on daddy.

If you're a parent, you know how that goes, you get your child a new toy and it's a huge hit for let's say a couple of day or a couple of weeks if you're lucky, then it's tossed to "the toy grave site" forgotten about.

Mommy and daddy were having a great time with Aidan taking pulses, checking reflexes and looking in ears for spiders. But the sweetest thing of all was when Aidan told daddy, what daddy needed to feel better was "a kiss on the lips" followed by a kiss from Aidan. I was so touched by this because Aidan doesn't dole out hugs and kisses freely, You usually need to beg and nag for them and often times all you'll get is his cheek for you to kiss. (pics to come)

3 In A Tub

Bathing is usually a chore that is designated for daddy and I have to say, for this I am grateful. I find it a daunting task and let's not forget back breaking. On occasion I have to take this task on, for example tonight since daddy is having a guys night out. So I find it easiest to just put all 3 in the tub at once with a bunch of tub toys of course. They love this and I think it just goes by so much faster. They get engaged with playing together so they forget that your washing and rinsing them so there's less of a struggle. Aidan is usually a freak about having his hair rinsed but when he saw that Miles his little brother had his hair rinsed with no fuss at all, he too was going to do the same. So they played, made a bit of a mess, but it was all worth it and over in just under an hour.

The good thing about taking over daddy's chores every once in awhile is it's a reminder to me how helpful he is. Note to self: thank daddy and compliment him for what a good job he does with the bathing.

Madison's Birthday Party 7/27

On Sunday we went to Madison's birthday party...the boys had a fabulous time. There was a deluxe jumper with a basketball hoop in it and a slide, a fabulous see saw, a little princess playhouse, lots of hopper balls, crowns to be made, pin the sticker on the crown game and a crown pinata. There were delicious appetizers followed by L & L B-Bque, 2 icecream cakes and a snowcone machine. My sister in law sure raised the bar high. There's no way I could ever thow such a grand birthday party. And everyone went home with a loot, baggies full of candy and toys from the pinata, red envelopes with money, stickers, and helium balloons. Everything was so well put together that I was happy I had taken the time to put my boys together. My boys arrived looking pretty cute, they were wearing coordinating Hawaiian shirts. You couldn't miss the 3 brothers at this party.

Well Aidan's birthday is just around the corner and we'll be throwing him a birthday party. I can assure you, his party won't be as grand. It's going to be short and sweet, pizza and cupcakes and maybe snowcones if I can get the ice shaver to work. We're going with a dinosaur theme and maybe we'll play pin the tail on the dinosaur but I'm not planning on a jumper or a pinata. As it is I'm having to squash poor Aidan's little dream of inviting his entire preschool class and plan on only inviting his close friends. As much as I love birthday parties, I also understand I have limitations and need to work with those. I want my boys to have fond memories of their birthdays but hope this doesn't mean having to have jumpers, performers, and caterers. I want them to remember the sweet simplicity of homemade cupcakes, handmade birthday banners, and pretty wrapped gifts from mommy and daddy. Time will tell if I accomplish this.

Time Flies When You're Busy (and having fun)

I can't believe how many days have gone by since my last blog entry. So much has happened since then. I'll give you a brief run down.

The boys have begun seeing a pediatric chiropractor who also practices homeopathy. They seem to be responding wonderfully. The intial visit was for Liam. We were taking him for sacral cranial outlet treatment and some Neurological emotional treatment (NET) to help with his head banging behavior. Well he seems much calmer, not perfect of course but definitely calmer. Miles she is treating his sinus and tonsil/adnoid problems hoping to drain them so he they'll stop giving him problems and he won't have to have surgery. And she saw Aidan for his slight scoliosis in hopes of correcting it. We'll be seeing Dr. Tulloss for several more visits.

The boys also had terrible colds with fevers now passed on to me. Aidan stayed home from preschool and daddy stayed home from work to help take care of them all. That was pretty miserable.

After running into my neighbor at the park with her 2 yr old and 1 month old and seeing just how tired she was, I delivered dinner (veggie enchiladas) to her on Thurs to try to provide some relief. I remember how thankful I was for all the neighbors and friends who delivered a meal. So I decided to pay that one forward. I'm sure there will be a few more of those to come.

Then yesterday we all went next door and picked blackberries. Well I did while Aidan held the bowl and the twins ran around. Our neighbors have an amazing huge yard, the boys love it. The twins actually got to go twice, we went first in the morning with our twin friends sebastian and Fletcher then when I realized I didn't have enough black berries we went again after dinner.

I baked a cheesecake and made blackberry sauce for the playdate/baby shower we had today for one of our new friends via preschool. Aidan had his 2 best buddies over, Ryan and Tim while we hosted a small baby shower for Tim's mom who is about to have identical twin girls in the next 2 weeks. It was hot but fun and everyone enjoyed the deserts. Ryan's mom Anna was kind enough to bring burritos and quesadillas from Cactus, that was a hit too!

The only other update is that the boys seem to be settling in now at daycare. The morning vomits have stopped and the crying is down to a minimum. I'm thankful for this because I was concerned the daycare attendant was going to tell me they were just too disruptive to be there.

That's it for now...tomorrow we have a birthday party and grandma to see ...

Punch Balloons

Always looking for some new entertainment. Today I blew up 3 punch balloons for the boys to play with. Let me add, I thought I was going to faint after blowing them up. They were patient, as I slowly blew them up requiring several rest periods to catch my breath and get past the light headedness. I think they realized, mommy's having a hard time. It was all worth it, the boys had a great time with them and surprisingly the twins were able to get a handle on how to hold the rubberband and punch the balloon. I was afraid they were a bit you for it. They played with them for awhile in the early afternoon and then again later in the day. I always feel somthing is a huge success if it holds there attention for more than 15 minutes and if they come back to it later. I can't tell you how many activities I've taken the time to set up and have it result in a total failure. Either they're totally not interested in it or it's to frustrating. It's always hit or miss. The punch balloon it a HIT! We'll be buying more of those.

Naps

Naps are a hard thing in our house. It would be wonderful if the twins always went down for naps together. But, unfortunatley that is not the case. Liam has always been a short napper. Miles usually goes down first followed by Liam. Miles usually wakes up shortly after Liam goes down. It seems like I never get any down time, there's always one of them awake. I dream about all the things I could do if they would just nap together.

Today, we went to the park in the morning, met with some of our twin friends. They played for a good hour, followed by lunch and then we went home. Well, to my surprise they both went down for a nap together, slept for an hour. It was so nice that now I'm thinking I need to take them to the park every morning and play them hard. Or just maybe it was a lucky coincidence.

Keeping Busy

The weekend flew by and not a single blog entry. Weekends always seem to be a whirlwind of activities with the kids, leaving daddy and I just beat by the evening. Weekends are full of events, soccer practice, birthday parties, play dates, park visits etc. It's all about the kids these days. We've been trying to focus some extra attention on scheduling regular play dates for Aidan. It's good for him socially and gives him a break from the frustration of dealing with his younger brothers. Although Aidan plays with the twins it's just not the same level of play he gets to have with a friend his age.

This weekends play date was on Sunday, a trip to the zoo with his pal Derrek from preschool. Both families went and strolled the zoo. Aidan had a great time with his friend despite one bad fall and one small upset regarding the need to ride the train. We've learned a visit to the zoo is not complete without a train ride.

Play Date - Tub Time Fun

I wish I had a camera with me today. We had dinner at friends home followed with tub time. The twins took a bath with their friends, another set of twins. It sure was the sweetest thing. Miles and Liam freaked out a bit a first, "Whoa, what am I doing in a tub at someone elses house" but they settled down quick enough and enjoyed the water and tub toys. I asked Aidan if he wanted to join in the fun, no way was that going to happen...get in the tub with my brothers and their buddies, be for real mom!

It's funny how when you go to someone elses house their toys just seem so fabulous, even those that you have at home and have been long forgotten. I guess that's the great thing about play dates it's not just the company but the novelty of someone else's toys.

Creative Wednesday

It was too hot to play outside this afternoon and the boys were bored with their toys. So it was time to get creative. Mommy pulled out the washable markers and stickers, and let them go at it. They had a great time and it held there attention for a good 45 minutes. When they were all done, they had as much ink on themselves as they had on the paper and stickers were for sticking everywhere. But it sure was fun.

Hot Nights and Tantrums

It's hot here and our old craftsman home does not have A/C and is not the best insulated home. So in the summer our house gets really hot. Even though, last summer we installed attic fans, which has reduced the temps about 5 degrees or so not enough to make us comfortable. We set up fans in the bedrooms to help the kids sleep but you can still here them tossing and turning. It's hard to sleep when your hot and sweaty. Miles has woken up this evening completely sweaty, beat red face and just grumpy. He has carried on screaming for about 20 minutes with no avail, waking up Aidan. Aidan called out to me asking me to get Miles to be quite. We tried everything, gave him milk, he refused it, cool washcloth to the face, he screamed, massaged his gums with little teethers, he screamed, patted his back, he screamed, motrin, he screamed. Finally, Max loaded him up in the van at 11:30 pm to take him out for a ride in hopes that this might calm him down. This is no ordinary tantrum, this is one of those huge knock down drag outs that frighten us, hoping they don't injure themselves during the event. They don't happen often but when they do, they are alarming.

Please, no couch potatoes!

This does not look good! My 3 boys sitting on the couch engrossed in a dvd....at least it's one of those educational ones by leap frog. That's ok, right?? I sure hope we aren't raising a bunch of couch potatoes. We don't have cable and the only time Max and I watch tv for our own personal enjoyment is when the kids go to bed. Really when you don't have cable, there's not much to watch. We do particpate in one of those dvd mail services but, we don't watch them very often because we're always too tired. We've often toyed with the idea of cancelling it.

The truth is though that we own tons of kids dvds, all educational, you know the leap frog and sesame street type. And, I'm guilty of using them so that I can cook dinner before Max gets home from work. Otherwise, it would be impossible for me to manage 20 month old twins and a 3 yr old while preparing dinner. I've tried on several occasions, setting them up with some toy, project etc and then trying to start dinner. It never seems to work out. I try to tell myself that it's ok, 30 minutes of an educational dvd just before dinner isn't so bad. Sometimes on the weekends we allow it as a treat for good behavior. It just allows us to get a bit of down time. Suddenly after seeing this photo I feel horribly guilty.

The Boys First 4th of July Parade

This is the first 4th of July parade we've taken the boys to, and if I'm correct, I think it's the first parade we've ever taken them to. We had front row seatings, our friends who lived walking distance had arrived early to set up lawn chairs for all of us. I have to say that was pretty nice.

The boys all really enjoyed themselves, especially Aidan. Aidan had a great time hanging out with his buddies from preschool. I brought little flags for them to wave during the parade. Aidan and his friends were quite a little group, playing and dancing on the sidelines, they were hard to miss. They sure caught the paraders attention resulting in tons of candy tossed to them. They had so much fun running into the street after the candy and other goodies they were given. One thing about Aidan is that he's really into music so when this float came by that had a band on it playing some 70's funk song, it really got his attention. He stopped all his goofing around and just watch intently as they performed, rolling by. I can't remember the name of the group it was somthing?? Shack. But,anyways they were pretty good and I'm sure Aidan thought so too. Miles had fun running in toward the parade and back towards daddy. He did this over and over, getting a good laugh about it every time. Liam sat on my lap the whole time, very mellow, taking it all in. He was quite absorbed in it all, very unusual for Liam.

I have to say, I'm not usually a parade kind of person but this was a really nice family event followed by a nice family barbeque with friends.

Imagination Soaring

I've noticed lately that Aidan's imagination is just soaring, it's becoming much more vivid. He tells stories about ojects he sees with great detail now, all from his imagination. We were at a friends house who had a doll house and he went into this elaborate story about the mailman trying to deliver mail to the doll house and how the little girl there was sad about her mail. We were all kind of amazed about the detail he came up with. He's also fascinated with the moon and has told me lots of stories that include the moon. He's told stories for a quite a while now but in the past they were much more concrete. He's also now playing with objects and creating other objects out of them like the train he made out of his beads, or the moon that he makes with his sandwich. I'm just so pleased to see the creativity that comes out of his imagination. I think he's pretty pleased with himself too. I can't wait to till he can start really drawing, I'm anxious to see what his drawing ability will be. His 4th birthday is just around the corner and we still aren't sure whether he's left or right handed. He seems to go back and forth often. In the meantime I'll just enjoy his fun little stories.

Liam reads to Miles

It's moments like this I wish I had a camcorder. Liam was reading this book in his own little twin babble language and Miles appeared to be listening intently. This went on for several minutes. To the observer it really seemed as if they understood each other in that babble of theirs. Most recently, it's been a few weeks now they both have become much more verbal. Sometimes, they'll be playing in their room together and there will be full length conversations in that babble, I stand in the hallway eavesdropping, it just brings a huge smile to my face and warms me in that special way. At some point I'm going to have to record it before it's gone because it's the sweetest thing ever.

My Little Cowboys

I took the twins with me on errands, I know that sounds crazy. We went to the post office, Costco, and Target. They did really well and really seem to enjoy the people watching. And of course they get lots of attention when we go out, as if they were the only set of twins in the world.

Anyways, I bought them this great little cowboy hat out of the dollar bins at Target. They both just loved wearing it and got a real kick at looking at themselves in the mirrow with it on. I just love costumes and playing dress up, so even a simple hat like this creates crazy fun for me. I'm so happy that the twins seemed to really enjoy it too!

These Are My Martians

Somebody asked me, "Why Martian Mom?" My response, "Did you ever hear, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus?" "Well if that is in fact true then I live with a household of Martians ( 3 boys and a hubby), making me the 'Martian Mom' " There you have it, it's as simple as that....and here are my Martians, Max (hubby), Miles (twin A), Liam ( Twin B) and Aidan ( my oldest soon to be 4)

Life has it's ups and downs with a house full of Martians, and the truth is we don't always get along. I have a feeling that's going to become a bit more challenging as the boys get older. We already have the struggles over toys, being first for their cup of milk, struggles for books, bath time, and food/snacks. And of course there is the struggle between Venus and Mars on parenting techinques, appropriate discplining, what is punishment worthy, what punishment fits the crime, what time should bedtime be, and even silly stuff like what should their haircut look like, sweater vs. sweatshirt, and warm pj vs. cooler pj. Sometimes the small stuff seems really big and sometimes the big stuff really is Big. What's most scariest to me, is that somehow through all these struggles, we need to make sure not to screw up those little Martians.

Dinner Time

The twins are 20 months now and have recently started feeding themselves. I know what you're thinking just now. I have to say I'm ( or we're , hubby too) guilty of having fed them and not allowed them to experiment with self feeding for much too long. You know there's less to clean up that way and I guess I just found it to be overall easier. Unfortunately they had to start demanding the fork and spoon before I actually handed it over to them. Needless to say, they're doing a pretty good job, yeah we have spills and throwing but overall it's not too bad. They're growing up so fast.











They were enjoying the salsa verde pork roast I made....and of course Aidan (the picky eater) was having a grilled cheese. I'm trying not to be the short order cook anymore. He usually has to eat what we're having but today, fortunatley for him, there was a left over grilled cheese from lunch time. Oh, and for your information, Daddy decided to take him for a supercuts haircut after soccer practice today;. It's absolutely terrible, you might as well have put a bowl on his head. Poor guy, I made sure to let him know how handsome I thought he was regardless of the haircut.

Liam - The Beaver

Liam has the longest teeth ever. I'm really not sure where he got those teeth from. I used to think it was just me who thought he had long teeth, that maybe my other kids had small teeth making Liam's teeth look long. But apparently not. Everyone seems to notice and those who either know us well enough to comment or are just plain bold enough to say somthing, do. He's been called beaver, rabbit, bunny, or as my dad said, "conejito" (little bunny in spanish). Max and I have been know to call him "the beaver". Once the rest of his teeth come in it may not be as noticeable but right now those two lone bottom teeth just look exceptionally long.

School age kids can be cruel. Somtimes I start thinking about what might be in the future, and I wonder if he's going to be the subject of ridicule in school. My heart just breaks for him and then I remember as Karen ( my bestfriend) once said...don't worry about him, "Liam thinks he's the bomb" . This makes me laugh because I think she's right about this, Liam thinks he's "IT".

Miles Cries

Let me start with still no photos. Really lagging on this, hopefully soon.

Miles cries...all the time. I just don't get him somtimes. He cries when he sees me and clings on to me as if I'm leaving. He cries when folks show up, like Irene who's been with us forever, or Shoshana our neighbor. I could see crying with strangers but he cries with folks we know well. He somtimes cries when he sees Liam approaching him. He cries when Liam takes somthing from him or if he thinks Liam might want something from him. He sometimes cries in the morning when he wakes up, cries during naps, he just cries. He's always been such a happy sweet baby so it surprises me now that he cries so much with little to instigate it. He cries at play groups, he cries at music class, he cries. I'm sure it's just a phase....but he cries. Wish I had a photo.

Play Group at Our House

Today our Wednesday twin play group met at our house. When we go to other houses for the group my twins always freak out for about the first 30 minutes and at some point they get comfortable and start to play. When it's at our house I would expect it to be different, since they are in their own element. But, for some reason it's the same ol' story...freak out for awhile, Miles crying and clinging to me, Liam throwing himself on the floor and banging his head on the floor. Yeah, it's as dramatic as it sounds. I keep telling myself (and them) one day the group is going to ask us not to come any more, when they've finally had it with the drama.

After the drama was over, there was some playing to be had. All the kids played and kept themselves entertained, long enough for moms ( Leslie, Erin, and I) to chat for a bit. It was nice to get to know them a bit more and just having that adult contact. The twins are starting daycare 2 xwk next week, I made sure the days would not be Wed so it wouldn't interfere with this group.

Preparing for Change

Irene our helper/nanny came today. The twins really love her. They just light up when they see her especially Liam. I'm sorry to say our time with her is coming to an end. In July the twins will start at Rocio's daycare 2 xwk. We decided they would benefit from the social interaction with other children and it's actually cheaper too... that's always a plus. I am a little anxious about how they will do at Rocio's. I've been taking them to visit for a couple of hours at a time for the past couple of weeks so they can get familiar with the place and people, my attempts to reduce the trauma of being dropped off their for a good part of the day. I also worry about them missing Irene. She's been with us since they were 8 weeks old. She's been really fabulous with them and it's obvious that they have come to love her. I hope/plan to remain in contact with her to maintain some sort of relationship for the twins. Haven't quite sure how I'm going ot manage this yet. All I know is that we are all going to miss her.

Picky Eater

Mealtimes are so difficult in our house. The twins throw food around which is frustrating but we are slowly getting a handle on it. More frustrating is Aidan the picky eater. It's hard for me to complain because I too am an extremely picky eater. Now I have a better understanding of what I put my parents through. He is on this white food diet, bread, cheese, noodles, and he's added a few other things however they aren't so healthy, hotdogs, pizza, beef, chicken nuggets. He refuses to eat veggies and most fruits. I don't like to force him to eat anything, being a pocky eater myself, I understand how awful it is to be forced to try somthing. I try to explain to him that he can spit anything out he doesn't like but to please just take one bite before he decides he doesn't like it. This is coming from someone who has never eaten a strawberry, peach, tomatoe and many, many other things. Of course he refuses that one bite. Here's what even more difficult is that daddy and mommy do not agree on this issue. Daddy will take a hard stance and tell him he can't leave the table until he tries whatever it might be that's on his plate. Of course I don't agree with this techique and I fear it's going to give him food issues or being as stuborn as Aidan is that he's going to dig his heels in even more. I would rather take the softer approach and wait for him to come around. I don't know what the right answer is but what I do know is, one of the biggest challenges in parenting is when mommy and daddy don't agree on somthing.

Boys and Markers

Today I rolled out a piece of butcher paper on the dining room table and set out some markers. The boys all sat at the table and with some help from Daddy and Mommy they played with the markers for at least 30 minutes. When that started to loose their interest I brought out a roll of Diego stickers which bought us about another 15 minutes of entertainment. It was so great to have all the kids engaged in the same activity. It's a small glimpse of what we have to look forward to in the near future. Usually it's been really challenging to entertain Aidan while entertaining the twins. Developmentally their needs are so different that it's always been this juggling act to make sure the twins are safe and having fun while Aidan is also being entertained. Toys that Aidan enjoys right now pose a choke hazard to the twins, or art and craft projects Aidan can and would like to do are still to difficult for the twins, a dvd that Aidan would like to watch is not appropriate or engaging for the twins, etc. etc, etc. this has been so exhausting. So for Max and I it was soo exciting to be able to get them to participate in an activity together that of course we tried to milk it for as long as possible, and of course we pulled out the camera and took photos of this fabulous new milestone ( photos later).

Technically Saturday's Entry: Trying to keep up

I'm not going to kid you, keeping up with a blog is hard work. Going to do my best to keep up...and soon, I promise myself to begin adding photos. What's a blog without photos?

Today I went to the annual Mill Valley store clearance sale. It might as well have been a TBB (twins by the bay) event. There were so many twin moms there. It was definitely a mob scene but I managed to score quite a few great fall clothes items for all 3 boys. So stay tuned for some photos of my boys in some styling clothes this fall, lol! I have to say I'm pretty excited about it all.

Max had the boys while I was out on my shopping excursion today. They went to Aidan's soccer practice and then hung out at dreamland park. Max said everything went smooth. That's good news for me. I always feel anxious about leaving all 3 boys with Max . Not that I think he can't handle it, because I know he can, but I hate for Max to have to handle it after a week of work at his full time job. But, it is good for the boys to have some alone daddy time., I know they all love it.

Just Can't Predict....

The twins went for a 2 hour trial at daycare this afternoon. I had predicted that Liam would be an absolute mess and through one of his dramatic tantrums. To my surprise, Liam was fine, he snacked, drank water, and played. It was Miles who cried the entire 2 hours, refused to all snacks and drinks and refused to move. We did not expect that at all since Miles is so often the easy going one. When we picked them up, Miles gave me this pitiful look and burst out into more tears. If he could speak, he'd probably say, "This is so not ok!" It just broke my heart to see him like that. Liam, seem to say " Hi there. Nice to see you back" Just goes to show you, you just can't predict what's going to happen. Just when you think you've got them figured out, they throw you a curve ball.

On another note, poor Miles is also teething horribly. This has been going on for a couple of weeks now. His gums are so swollen, he's just miserable. It's been such a slow process for him. I don't remember it being that slow for Aidan And, we haven't even begun with Liam. I'll be happy when all the teething is done with. I was a late teether, and all the kids have been late teethers. Aidan didn't get his first tooth til he was 13 months old and the twins got their first tooth at 12 months old. More sleepless nights to come, like I said can't wait for it to end.

Amazment or Pity?? and A First For the Twins: Markers.

It was a hot day today here in Oakland. Hot days are unbearable at the Rocha house. Even though we installed attic fans last summer and insulated the house, the temps still seem to rise inside pretty quickly. On days like this I usually take the boys out to air conditioned place to hang out and cool off for a bit, Barnes & Noble, Target etc. Tonight was Target. I dreaded going by myself with the 3 boys but surprisingly they did well. The twins were in the double stroller while Aidan hung out beside me with the rule that he had to keep one hand on the stroller handle. He did really well tonight, with the help of a bribe of course. We walked out with animal crackers and a hot wheels car. I know bribery isn't the best parenting method, but it works.

It's funny how people stare when we're out. I'm not sure if it's stares of pity "that poor woman with those 3 young kids" or amazement " wow look at that woman with those 3 young kids, how does she do it?" I'd like to think amazement but somehow I really think it's pity. And, it's amazing how people just can't seem to help themselves from remarking "wow twins" If I had a dollar for everytime I've heard that, I would be a millionare right now.

Twins had a first today...today I set them up in their highchairs and taped construction paper down on the trays and gave them each washable markers. They absolutely loved it and it bought me about 45 minutes of entertainment and another 45 minutes for clean up. Definitely will be an activity to be repeated.

Long Day For this Loser Parent

It's been a long day. Took the twins to a play group in Orinda today. I had a great time socializing with the moms, that is after the boys stopped clinging to me. This happens every time for the first 30 -45 minutes. I look forward to the day we show up and they go straight to play.

In the mean time, I seem to think I enjoy the play groups much more than the twins. I feel very fortunate to have hooked up with this great bunch of women ( not just saying this cause I think one day they might read this lol!) It's true, they are all very different yet we seem to click really well. I appreciate my conversations with them. They all are really intelligent and I seem to always get great feedback from them. Rachel has helped immensily (sp?) with my disciplining slash time outs, Susan has been great to talk about food for the children, Ebba is always filled with some helpful knowledge and facts and I enjoy talking crafts with her, Monika I'm just getting to know but I really like her style and way of being ( I can tell she's going to be lots of fun) and there's other but I haven't quite gotten to know them yet.

Let's fast forward now to why I'm a loser, Poor Aidan, has 2 staples in his head right now...did I give him tylenol this morning before sending him off to school, NO. Did I even consider that he might be in pain, No. If I had 2 staples in my head, would I be taking Tylenol or Motrin right now, YES. When he had a huge meltdown this afternoon before dinner, di dI consider he might be in pain or discomfort, NO. My neighbor came over because she heard the screaming and yelling (Aidan having an out of control tantrum) and thought I could use some help. After telling her I don't know what got into him, She's the one who asked me about coudld he be having some discomfort, somthing going on and this is displaced stress...Bingo. It finally dawned on me. "Aidan, are you feeling ok?" Aidan , "No mommy can you help me feel better" Oh what a loser am I "Aidan is somthing hurting or bothering you" Aidan, "Yes, mommy my head hurts" Well no shit, he had an injury resulting in staples and nobody ( being mom or dad) had even considered medicating him for pain....would you call me LOSER under things circumstances. So I gave him some Tylenol, and held him on my lap for a bit., while my neighbor, Shoshana fed the twins dinner. (Max was out with a friend for dinner)
Well of course I've given my psyche a good beating and I'm now emotionally and physically exhausted. Note to self: don't ever let this happen again!

Injury = Treats

11:30 am: phone rings, caller ID says Chatham Preschool. My first thought, "Now why could they be calling me, what did I forget?" I answer, and the conversation is as follows:
me: Hello
Mrs. Tina: Hello is this Aidan's mom?
me: yes it is
Mrs. Tina : Aidan had an accident, he's crying right now. He has a cut on the back of his head the size of a fingernail and it's bleeding.
me: Is it bad? (duh?)
Mrs. Tina: Well you need to see it.
me: I haven't gotten dressed yet and I have a dentist appt this afternoon ( I know your thinkng right now, what an idiot)
Mrs. Tina: Well it's our policy to advise you of his injuries, and he's bleeding.
me:OK I'll be there in 1/2 an hour
Mrs. Tina: ok
I frantically take a quick and much needed shower, throw somthing on, grab Aidan's medical record book, a bottle of children's Tylenol, and quickly head over to Chatham in record time. All this in about 15 minutes, tops.
I walk in, Aidan is sitting at one of the lunch tables, looking quite pathetic I might add. I walk over, realize his head and shirt are stiff with blood. I take a look an the wound, which is dime size but deep. I look up at Mrs. Tina, feeling very foolish now for my earlier hesitation, and tell her I'm going to step out for a couple of phone calls. I call his doctor, they schedule me in for 2:15. I call dentist, they schedule me in for Sept (I arghhh it's now June). I go back in, give Aidan a dose of Tylenol and we leave. Of course I thanked Mrs. Tina for all her help on my way out.

Now I'm feeling like a complete idiot and guilty for having considered that they might be overreacting and I not need come in at all. What is my response to this? Well since we have an hour and 1/2 before the appt and the office is 2o minutes away. We first go to the nearest shopping center, TJMaxx, where out of guilt I buy him a set of kids binoculars, a Thomas Train Pinball machine.

Appt. Time: Aidan gets 2 staples put in his head. I have to tell you he was the bravest little boy ever. Not a single tear, just a tight grip on mommy's arm and a squeal "owww"

OK now I feel even more guilty so what do I do. We stop at the Sweet Dreams Toy store where I proceed to buy him a police car, then to StarBucks where I buy him a chocolate milk (somthing we never indulge him in.

What must he think...injuries equals a fabulous afternoon of great treats. What good can come out of this?? Time to reevaluate how to handle injuries. Of course I feel bad, but I obviously did not have to overcompensate with all the treats. Would really just like to go dig a hole somewhere and put my head in it. These mom lessons sure are tough.

Potty Training...could it really be possible?

I belong to a twin play group that gets together every Wed and also have a email circle where questions and ideas or whatever are posted. Let me start with saying, this is a group of fabulous moms that have inspired me in so many ways. Things I have learned from them including eating habits, time out methods, sleeping and bed time routines. But, today a very daunting subject has come to light...the dreaded "Potty Training". When I read this email, my heart beat quickened and my vision blurred. My mind wandered to visions of my boys with there hands in the toilet and you fill in the rest. Could my 19 month old twins possibly be ready? Apparently there is a book out "Diaper Free Before Three" that is the culprit here. So I ask, does this include boys too? More to come...

Martian Mom Chronicles: the beginning

Well, as I'm not sure what kind of fluff I will fill this blog with, I have wanted for so long to have a blog. Emulate those many blogging moms I have so admired, reading their blogs to the wee hours of the night (regretting it in the morning of course) and saying to myself I so want to be part of this. So, today is my birthday, let's not forget father's day too, and the beginning of my martian mom chronicles. My plan is to chronicle all the remember worthy happenings of my moments with my 3 boys, husband, and of course my dear hobbies crafting and thrifting.

My life sometimes is a bit crazy and out of control, as I often over do it on the multitasking. I sometimes think I'm supermom but definitely much to often fail miserably. So hopefully this isn't one more crazy task I'm trying to add to my already more than busy life.

Well my birthday was pleasant as I shared the festivities with my hubby, Max. Surely I didn't want to cheat him out of Father's day. Max was presented with a grilling cookbook, some grilling tools and a too small penguin brand shirt from the boys, Aidan soon to be 4 and 19 month old twins Miles and Liam. I was in a panic the friday before, trying to come up with the right gifts. Somehow I manage to pull it off, phew. Aidan of course told daddy "open the presents daddy, lets see what you got"

We had planned on a nice brunch out but of course were not able to pull the crew together early enough then feared we would be faced with too big of crowds. Somthing we have learned to avoid with 3 kids under 4. So we opted for a picnic at the zoo followed with a nice dinner at home, prepared by Max. The grill master provided us with ribeye steaks, grilled corn and bread, very low key yet pleasing. Most pleasing is that Aidan has begun to eat beef. The best gift of all today, I didn't have to spend dinner spinning my wheels trying to figure out what to feed Aidan. He's now added beef to his white food diet. A move in the right direction. Well there'll be more about that in the future as I have also vowed to stop being a short order cook for my kids.

And the night has ended with a carrot cake, putting the boys to bed, and now beginning this blog. Here's the start, next I'll have to figure out how to load picture on. If anything, I do hope one day my boys will have somthing amusing to read and remind them of their childhood escapades.